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Transcript: The Power of the Subconscious Mind with Hypnotherapist Kristin Dwan

May 29, 2023

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The Power of the Subconscious Mind

Whitney (00:00):

Welcome to Spiritual and Ambitious. I’m your host, Whitney McNeil. I’m a certified medium and spiritual teacher and I help spiritual and ambitious souls just like you live your life purpose through your career and attract abundance by connecting into your intuition and spirit guide. Let’s get spiritual and ambitious.

Whitney (00:31):

Welcome to this episode of the Spiritual and Ambitious podcast. I am so happy to introduce to you one of my favorites. Kristin Dwan is on the podcast, and Kristin is a certified hypnotherapist, author, Reiki master and owner of The Healing Woods where she works with people wherever they are in the world via Zoom. Kristin specializes in soul deep healing of the subconscious and ancestral level to release you from the blockages you have that keep you from the life, love, and joy you yearn to experience. She is your guide through the world of shadow work to make sure your subconscious mind is in alignment with what you consciously desire in life. Welcome to the podcast, Kristin. Thanks for being here.

Kristin (01:18):

Thank you for having me. I’m so excited.

Whitney (01:22):

Yeah, I, I think that this is such a powerful work that you do, and I know we’re gonna be talking a lot about the power of the subconscious mind and I first met you, gosh, years ago at an event where we were, and it was so powerful for me. You were talking about the subconscious mind and all these old stories that we hold onto, and I remember that you burned them in this fire and that night I had to make a decision. It was really important for me to decide and I had this astral travel. I was dreaming, or, you know, whatever you wanna call it and I was in this old workplace and I realized, oh my goodness, this is where I truly felt limited in my abundance and I burned that place on fire. Now, this is all on the astral plane, so like making sure everybody listening knows this, but the next day I felt so much lighter. I felt empowered. I was like, oh my gosh, this sure works. I loved it. And then I’ve worked with you on one-on-one sessions too, but could you tell everybody, you know, what is the subconscious mind and what is shadow work?

Kristin (02:41):

Yeah. So that’s really interesting that you dreamt about an old place of work because how the subconscious mind speaks to us is through dreams. You know, our conscious mind comes up with stories and words and all those kind of things, but the subconscious speaks back to us through images and emotion, and so I actually love that you had your old place of work come up because that’s your subconscious mind showing you that era of life. So, however old you were during that place of employment, that’s kind of where to focus on releasing any old patterns or beliefs or, you know, traumas or anything like that, so it’s beautiful how the subconscious mind works. So your subconscious is 88% of your mind’s power. You know, we use about 12% to make our decisions, to have our goals and our plans and what we wanna do in life, what we wanna be and then we’ve got the subconscious that records all of our knowns. We call them knowns, like we know what we believe because we were taught at five about what love is, or what money is, or what even health is, right? Like, oh, you need to be careful, this family gets this particular thing. So then, you know, you’re growing up thinking you’re gonna get this particular thing when you’re a certain age, right? So it’s basically like a tape recorder that just takes in information around the years of zero to eight years old. So we like to say that the subconscious mind is like your inner five year old running your life.

Whitney (04:21):

Yes, I can see that.

Kristin (04:24):

Right? And so the mind is so beautiful, you know, we have all the tools that we need if we can just access all of it. So with the brain as a whole, you know, we’ve got the conscious which is 12%. We’ve got the subconscious which is the 88%, and it’s basically like a database that keeps all of our knowns, everything that we feel about ourselves, about the world, about life, everything. And there’s a little tiny like gatekeeper between the two that is called the it’s basically like the criticizer. It criticizes like what your, what your thoughts and beliefs are and it’s called the critical mind. And so, you know, between zero and eight years old, we’re just believing everything we’re told, good, bad, indifferent, all of it. Santa Claus is real, you know? I can fly, I’m a ferry, you know? All the things that we kinda, you know, make believe and learn and listen to with our parents comes in as truth.

Kristin (05:30):

Around the age of nine, we start to get this critical mind and it starts to think like, I don’t know about that. I don’t know if I believe that. Let me, let me figure this out and maybe we stop believing in Santa Claus. We start to listen to our own music, want to wear our own clothes, not the dresses mom wants to put us in, right? And what ends up happening is our subconscious is always working. It’s trying to keep us alive. It’s making sure that you’re breathing, it’s making sure that your blood is flowing, making sure that you’re blinking, you know, and you’re not thinking about all this stuff consciously. It’s just happening within the subconscious. So when you have a decision or you know, a goal, will power is within the conscious mind, right? That 12%. When we make a decision, like I’m gonna talk about myself. I’ve lost 150 pounds in the last few years using the power of my subconscious mind through Reiki, but also 100% through hypnosis.

Kristin (06:32):

And so I had the decision, like I knew, right? Like I decided like I need to lose weight. I have a lot of weight to lose. This is not healthy. I need to make the right decisions within food and exercise and all the things. So 12% of my brain was on board with that, then there’s the habits, right? Are habits are within the subconscious? So willpower, right? I need to eat this. I need to not eat that. I need to drink more water and I need to move more. That’s 12% of my brain. The 88% is like, yeah, but remember when you were a little girl and cake made you feel better or why would you wanna not do this thing that’s gonna actually keep you alive? Like it’s just so deep that and that’s why we call it shadow work. It’s what lies beneath the surface.

Kristin (07:20):

It’s the work that needs to be done on the emotional level, the subconscious level, the ancestral level, right? All these things that we’re not really dealing with consciously, you know, day to day but it’s always an anchor that keeps us right where we are. So, you know, with the habits being in the subconscious, I had to go beneath the surface and I had to teach my little girl, my inner little girl who found out that cake and, you know, the only thing that she had control over was what she ate, but she did it in the wrong way, right? She’s like, I’m gonna eat whatever I want cuz it makes me feel better and I’m going, my parents are going through a divorce and I’m not really happy with myself, but this food, I can control that, right? So that pattern was deep, deep within me.

Kristin (08:10):

And so here I am in my forties still in that pattern, right? So it wasn’t until I went back and did that inner child work, really just taught her, I had to reparent myself. My parents did the best they could, but I am 100% in control of how I parent myself today, right? And that’s, that deep inner work is like, how am I going to heal myself? How am I gonna save my own life? And it’s through teaching her how I really want life to be. So I started doing that around, you know, 2019 and then I really dug deep, you know, when we went into 2020, that beautiful year where we all just went within whether or not we wanted to, right?

Whitney (08:55):

Oh yeah. Oh yes, we did. We did. So you started in 2019. What I’m interested to know, when you say you dug deeper, when you’re digging deeper, do you start to notice more patterns or the reasons why you’re doing this? Is that what you mean by that?

Kristin (09:14):

Oh, yeah. Well, and even digging further into the past, right? Like when you’re working with emotional things, there’s always a reason why you call that certain person or that certain pattern or that certain, you know, belief into your life and if you go deeper and deeper and further into the past, sometimes it’s even ancestral, right? Like, mom or dad believed this thing and so they taught it to you when you were five. You’re not, you know, money. Let’s talk about money, right? There’s a lot of money patterns, like, I can only get to this much and if I go above then, you know, the subconscious pattern is, well, either I lose that client or I get a big bill that takes, you know, that abundance away, you know? And a lot of times that happens because we’re little 5, 6, 7, 8 year olds playing and in the other room, our parents don’t think that we can hear them, but they start arguing about money and there’s not enough money, and money is hard to make.

Kristin (10:10):

And, you know, so it’s, there’s, it, it just goes so deep and when we work on it at the root level, right, like the the inner child level, that’s when we can start to open up all these beautiful areas of healing, not only for ourselves, but for our parents. You know, when I started using hypnotherapy and really just working on my inner child, my dad was an alcoholic my whole life, like literally my whole life. He would wake up, drink, drink, drink and so I learned that from him, but it wasn’t alcohol. Mine was food, right? Like, so my addiction was food and after, you know, 40 years of that, when I finally kicked my dragon to the curb, right? Guess who stopped drinking? My dad. It was so amazing. It was like once I did the work on myself, it’s like that energy and that work went out to my dad. You know where I learned it from, right?

Whitney (11:09):

Yeah. So, yeah. That’s really beautiful

Kristin (11:11):

Yeah.

Whitney (11:13):

So I’m loving this conversation and we’re gonna take just a quick break and when we come back, there’s gonna be a lot more for you. All right? So stay with us and we’ll continue the conversation.

Whitney (11:26):

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Whitney (12:03):

It’s always interesting to see, you know, sometimes I’ll call that like the domino effect, you know? We can get to the source points. It’s like all the dominoes fall into a into place. When I used to do past life regressions, I would see a client come in and would get to a source point and they hadn’t talked to, let’s say, their child in years and all of a sudden that child reaches out and it’s like, oh my gosh, this is so amazing. And what I love about what you do and the work that you do is that it seems that from what you’ve said, you can work on so many different things. Hey, if you wanna lose weight, we can do this. If you’re wanting more abundance, we can do this. If you need help with sleep, I know this personally, cuz we work together on it, you can do this too. So what are some of the most common, I would say, things that people come to you for to work on?

Kristin (12:59):

Most common lately, just because of my own journey is people are seeing me as the poster child of my own work with all the weight loss, like the before after pictures and everything, and are like, wow, you know? Like, I want that. So I’m working with a lot of people on weight loss. I’ve also worked with a lot of people with quitting smoking. That’s a big one. You know, just self limiting beliefs, fears, you know, there is fear of driving and a lot of deep, deep inner child work. So when, you know, I work with somebody and they get into a package with me, I’ve been opening it up to more than just the hypnosis because hypnosis is a huge tool. It 100% is, and I changed my life and saved my life with it and there’s more to it, right? It’s like you need to hit it from all different realms.

Kristin (13:49):

So the Reiki, you know, also there’s like energy work plus the hypnosis. It’s like working on the mind and the energy together is so beautiful. So we dig into different areas and yes, do readings. I do past life regressions through hypnosis, but also Akashic past life readings. Those have been really, really beautiful to show people like, yes, your soul wants you to go on this path, even though like maybe your parents or friends are like, what are you doing? And the soul is like, no, this is what you need to do. It’s so, it’s beautiful to be able to, you know, know that even when things get hard and maybe there’s losses and there’s self-doubt, it’s like, no, keep going and then they find out later, like, oh, if I would’ve turned back then I would never have the beauty that I have today, you know? So yeah, it’s almost anything can be helped with working on your roots, right? Like, like your beliefs and who you are, like work, love, health, like all of it. Like, it just starts to flourish when you start tending to the roots of the garden, right?

Whitney (14:58):

Mm-Hmm. Yes. I love that. I think I’m one of your clients. You’ve been energetically calling in for weight loss. After two surgeries and sitting on my butt for six months, healing time. I’ve been saying to my husband, I need to talk to Kristin so I’m really happy that we’re having this interview right now, and that you’re approaching it from different means too. You’ve got hypnosis, but also energy work is so powerful and I love that you have that available. But also I’m interested in how you got started in this healing work too, ,like, you know, what brought you to this place?

Kristin (15:35):

That is a wonderful story, like you said, that you burnt everything to the ground. Well, I literally did by accident. So, you know, I grew up very spiritual like, like I just, I talked to fairies. I wasn’t the girl who was playing with Barbies. I was digging in the dirt and making what I called fairy soup out in my mom’s yard and, you know, it’s just really connected to the elements into nature. And early on, around 12, I found tarot cards. So I started like studying tarot and I always had a connection to spirit. I just didn’t know what it was, right? I was a teenager. I was just kind of like, you know, blundering around life trying to like get through like all teenagers are. And then around, you know, when I was 23, I started studying different religions and knew that there was something more out there than what I was taught as a child which was Christianity and I called out for help and I didn’t, you have to be careful when you call and ask for things because I definitely got the help, but it came in a way that I could never have foreseen.

Kristin (16:54):

So I was depressed. I didn’t like where I was living. I was living in a huge party house and, you know, just super not wanting to live anymore basically. And I lit a candle, it’s called a road opening candle nd people who are magically inclined are gonna know that that is a candle that you burn when you want, like, blockages to be released and, you know, you wanna be able to move forward towards what you want. I fell asleep while that candle was burning andwell, the night before I lit the candle, I had a semi-truck accident with a semi-truck. And so I came out without any, you know, my car was totaled and I was, you know, having trouble sleeping because of it so that’s why I kind of lit the candle and I was meditating. And then when I fell asleep, the next thing I know my cat is like scratching at my face to wake up and I open my eyes and I see walls of flame around me trapping me in my own bedroom.

Kristin (17:54):

And my cat got out the window okay and I had to literally run through a wall of flames to save my life basically. So I had third degree burns over 30% of my body and it was at that moment, you know, semi-truck accident one day, house burning down the next day where I was like, okay, life needs to change apparently, like I’m not on my right path, you know? And I ended up in a burn ward and it was in the burn ward where I had the third thing. It came in three, right? The first two had happened and now I’m in a burn ward and I started having skin graft surgeries and it was during the first skin graft surgery that my body didn’t like what they put me under with and so my heart decided to stop and so they had to, that was number three.

Kristin (18:46):

They had to resuscitate me. And when I woke up, I remember that there was a decision made. I could hear what was going on in the surgery and I could hear them saying like, we’re losing her, we’re losing her, you know? And then I remember a decision being made, like, I’m coming back and part of me was like, what am I doing? Why? It’s so beautiful up here. I’m not feeling any pain. Why am I, but I decided to come back and I literally know what it feels to be death warmed over, right? Like, that’s felt like, like it took me almost two days to be able to like eat or move, like I was just being watched, you know? And once I came back, I knew there was a reason. I knew that I wanted to write a book about the experience.

Kristin (19:33):

I knew that I wanted to finally start the band. That I was never, you know, I never felt confident enough to start, like I had all these plans and the doctor, my surgeon was like, well, I’m so happy you have all these plans beause I was like, I can’t wait to get outta here. I’m like, God, get me outta here. He’s like, it’s great that you have all these plans and you need to grow some skin before we can let you out of the burn ward. I was literally raw all over my hands, my arms, my legs, and my feet and so it was at that moment that I had like the dark night of the soul, like, I was so excited before. And then when he told me, you have to stay here and keep having skin grafts until your skin is better.

Kristin (20:13):

So that’s when I really called out for help and I was like, I’m strong and I get it, but please help me through this. And that’s when I felt this energy come through into the burn ward and start to like, I felt it suctioning out, the pain, suctioning out the burns, and I left my body and I came back in. And when I came back in, I felt such a deep sense of love and peace for myself that I never had. Never, I mean never. And so I still had the burns. I still, you know, had the burns going on, but the pain and the inner turmoil was lifted. And two days later, you know, the surgeon comes in and he looks at my skin. He’s like, wow, you’ve really made a turn for the better and you’re gonna be outta here in a week.

Kristin (21:02):

So it went from like, we don’t know how long you’re gonna be here. You could be here another month to literally getting out after this energetic occurrence. And so at that point, you know, I’m in my twenties. This is like the nineties, right? Like we didn’t have Google yet. You can’t let Google like Reiki or, I didn’t even know what Reiki was at that point, you know? So I went on a huge journey to find out what that energy was. And I went to shaman’s, I went to crystal healers, angel healers, like, you name it. I went to it and that’s when I found out what Reiki was and so I went to my first Reiki session. It was the closest to that energetic that, that, you know, divine energy that I felt and so that’s when I realized I’m gonna learn this, I’m gonna write about it, I’m gonna talk about it as much as I can, and that brought me into where I am today with starting the Healing Woods, you know, doing Reiki for others, teaching Reiki. I wrote a book about, you know, my journey with Reiki, baptism by flame. So yeah, that’s the fiery beginnings of the Healing Woods.

Whitney (22:09):

Oh wow, definitely fiery beginnings. I was just entranced with your story and I kind of forgot we were doing an interview, like, oh my goodness, wow, this is, this is a lot. And I know that you’ve had such really standout moments through your journey too, you know, that’s how it started. But it’s also like you’re doing these amazing things and you’ve really worked with this energy to help you just throughout life and you’re talking about your weight loss journey and that’s an amazing story as well.

Kristin (22:41):

My decision was to lose weight, right? So consciously, I used my conscious mind to say, I need to lose weight for my health and then the critical mind, that decision goes through the critical mind. And the critical mind goes, okay, cool, this is your decision that you’re making with 12% of your mind. I’m gonna now go back into the 88% to see where all your knowledge is stored, right? And so, you know, it goes back into the subconscious mind and it realizes, but wait, food made you feel really good while you were going through hell. Why would you wanna let go of that? That’s gonna put you in jeopardy and I’m not allowed to put you in jeopardy, so I’m gonna kick that decision back up. And so yeah, you can consciously decide to eat, you know, the good food and not have the dessert.

Kristin (23:28):

But when something emotional happens, when you get triggered emotionally, which the emotions are in the subconscious, then the habit, the habit of eating to make yourself feel better is going to be activated. And so that’s what happening, you know, we keep making these decisions to have the money w,e want to stop smoking, to eat what we should, when we should, you know, but then we get triggered on the subconscious level and that’s when the habit gets activated. So what needs to happen is change on the subconscious level to the habit. So now, do I not get triggered and do emotional things not happen to me? Absolutely not. I, you know, there’s stuff happening all over the place, right? And I get triggered almost daily. What changed in me now is the trigger isn’t going to make me go eat. I have changed it to go walk and that’s why, you know, you’re my friend on Facebook, you probably see like, oh my God, she’s hiking again. What?

Kristin (24:30):

Like every day there’s like a picture of a tree that I find on a hike, right? And that’s what I’ve changed is to drink water and to move my body, right? Those are now the trigger, the triggers will now have me do healthy things for myself.

Whitney (24:46):

Mm-Hmm. Yeah. I love that, that re-patterning. So you’ve had been on this amazing journey and it’s not over yet. It’s just evolving and changing as you grow so where is thisĀ journey leading you now?

Kristin (24:59):

I’m so excited. So tomorrow is the full moon, and I’m starting on a new coach training and so I’m learning, and it’s all about patterning. It’s all about deep, deep inner child work, but more on the conscious level, right? Like I help people on the subconscious level within hypnosis, and now I’m being trained to be a coach to help people really just do that inner work on a conscious level as well because I do believe in the full mind it’s not just working on the subconscious and it’s definitely not just working on the conscious, but when you put those together plus lessen the energy, I can’t wait to see who I can help and how I can help after this journey. It’s, it starts on the full moon and then it ends like next year so it’s like a nine month journey and I’m so excited.

Whitney (25:49):

Yes, I think that’s great, more tools to help. And can you tell people how you work with them? I know we’ve talked about one-on-ones and you and I have worked together through that, but can you tell people how to find you and how you like to work with clients?

Kristin (26:07):

Yeah, I love the one-on-one journeys. Those go the deepest, when you want, like, real change within your particular life because you and I will meet and talk about specifically what you want to be believing and the magic within hypnosis is your terms, your words being fed back into your mind so your mind takes it in as truth. When you go to like YouTube and find a hypnosis prerecorded, they’re beautiful and they’re peaceful. They might be able to calm you down a bit but to really change, create that deep change within the subconscious, it has to be one-on-one work because I need to know what your mind comes up with and use the words that your mind comes up with so one-on-one is like when you have big changes to make. When you are looking for more of a connection, more of a connection to spirit, that’s another thing that I really focus on within my work.

Kristin (27:05):

I have a beautiful group called Spirit Craft and so it’s an online, and everything is online by the way. I work with people all over the world. Online hypnosis is beautiful when you do it online because you’re safe. Your subconscious, your whole brain feels safe within your bed. When you go somewhere for it, it can still 100% work and your mind isn’t letting you go as deep as it would if it knew that it was in its safe surroundings. But Spirit Craft is a full moon, monthly meeting. Tonight, we’re having our meeting. Every month, we set intentions. You receive some sort of healing, whether it be Reiki or hypnosis and there is a guest. And so I have a Feng shui master coming into like talk about how she connects to spirit and how she helps bring in the love and the money into her home.

Kristin (28:01):

And so each month there’s a different guest to talk about, a different connection to spirit because I have run the gamut. I have learned Wicca. I’m a Kabalist. I Kabbalah. I’ve done Hindu, like I’ve just researched and been in many different groups in the last like 40 years of my life, and I realized we’re all trying to do the same thing, really. So I’m just bringing everybody in as guests to talk about what their connection is. So I think it’s really important that we connect to spirit cuz it really is just a connection to ourselves and the universe at the same time.

Whitney (28:41):

I love that. I think that speaks to a lot of listeners who are just so interested in so many different topics. And sometimes I’ll have students ask me, you know, what do I focus on? And you know, I think there’s such truth in so many different areas and you get to kind of keep what really resonates with you and it’s just interesting. I always say, you know, we’re all light. It’s just sometimes we have different, you know, shades of the light or different vibrations of the light and we can utilize this too. But this kind of brings me to two last questions, Kristin. So I know that you just told me all the things you’re excited about researching and what you’ve done which brings me to the word ambitious. So can you tell me what spiritual and ambitious means to you? That’s my first question. I’ve got another one after.

Kristin (29:29):

Spiritual to me means being in the flow, being in the flow of the universe, of God’s goddess, Buddha, whoever is up there with you, just connecting to it. To me, spirituality is a language and there’s many different languages to say the same thing. And to me, spirituality is just being in the flow of your soul, being in the flow of your spirit. Ambitious is yeah, right here.

Whitney (29:57):

That’s why I was wanting to ask. I mean, we, this is a spiritual and ambitious podcast and I was listening to you, I’m like, oh yes, you’re very ambitious. Let’s ask what this means to you.

Kristin (30:08):

To me, it’s just the calling, like hearing the calling and not doubting it, right? Like before the fire, I wanted, I sang my whole life. I was in choirs. I wanted to, you know, sing in a band. Everybody who heard me sing karaoke was like, you have to have a band. And I didn’t have, I knew the calling, I heard the calling. I felt it in my body and my brain was just like, nope, no, you can’t do that. You’re not supposed to be on stage. And so when the fire came in, right, the ambition can be fired, right? That fire came in and took my life away and then I was given it back then the ambition was like, I feel like it set that in motion for me cuz then band came, the book was written. Now, you know, the Healing Woods is here. So yeah, I feel ambition is that fire within you and really like listening to the calling and acting on it. Ambition is action.

Whitney (31:03):

Hmm. I love that. I always say take inspired action. You know, that inspiration coming from that intuitive spiritual place and take that action. So the last question I have for you, Kristin, is, is there anything that you would like to leave our listeners with as an inspiration or any advice or any kind of message that you wanna share?

Kristin (31:24):

Each and every one of you has a beautiful fire, a beautiful flame within you and even in the darkest parts of life, the loss, grief, whatever’s happening, just go within, it’s not outside of you. Yes, read the books, you know, get, receive healings, whatever you need to do to help you but know that that fire is really within you. And the more you focus on that fire, the brighter it’s gonna get and the easier it will get you through those dark times.

Whitney (31:55):

Mm-Hmm. Thank you for that, Kristin, and thank you so much for being on our podcast today, and we’ll link to all of Kristen’s amazing offerings in our show notes, including a free hypnosis download. All right?

Kristin (32:10):

Yes.

Whitney (32:10):

Yes, thank you so much. All right. For everyone listening out there, I will see you inside of the next episode. But for now, here’s to staying spiritual and ambitious.

Whitney (32:23):

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